Let's Talk About Hard Things

March 22, 2021
Sale, host of the podcast Death, Sex & Money, dives deep into “hard conversations” in her empathetic debut. Sale writes that talking openly about death, sex, money, family, and identity is crucial to understanding “how our experiences fit into broader patterns that we can learn from and take solace in,” and she walks readers through the importance of discussing each topic. In “Death,” she writes that acknowledging its inevitability can help the grieving and the dying “find companions in that pain.” “Sex” covers an uncomfortable postpartum experience Sale had at an OB-GYN office and offers that “sex is one of the most potent ways we communicate with one another.” In “Money,” she encourages readers to discuss both the emotional and practical aspects of wealth, even when it seems more polite to stay quiet. In addition to her own experiences, Sale offers no shortage of outside perspectives through interviews with former podcast guests, friends, and psychologists (Brad Kontz, for example, breaks down personality types based on one’s relationship with money). Fans of Sale’s podcast will find a familiar guide in her reflective and introspective voice, and those encountering her for the first time will find this a comfort in hard times. Agent: Daniel Greenberg, Levine Greenberg Rostan Literary Agency.

April 1, 2021
Expanding on her hit WNYC podcast, Death, Sex, & Money, journalist Sale urges readers to have difficult conversations about their lives. The book is divided into sections based on the most common areas of contention: death, sex, money, family, and identity. There are stories of divorce, the sudden loss of a young partner, alienation from one's immediate family, secret investments gone wrong, and the pain of systemic racism. The book elaborates on content that aired previously on her show and includes new interviews with friends and celebrities. Infusing it all with memoir, Sale is generous when divulging her tricky chats of yore, and always quick to acknowledge the privilege that has allowed her--a cis, heterosexual, married, white parent--to have some difficult conversations but not others. This book is a road map to navigating these sorts of conversations with friends and family, and even includes specific phrasing to try; it also offers a sense of solidarity. Simply bearing witness to the struggles of strangers is sure to leave readers feeling less alone.

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May 1, 2021

Sale, host of the podcast Death, Sex, and Money, explores how we can talk about difficult situations in order to better connect with family, friends, and coworkers. This debut covers five topics--death, sex, money, family, and identity--which Sale explores via stories from her own life and by interviewing a racially and economically diverse group of people. The book also offers short scripts to help readers approach often-complex issues. When discussing death, she advises, pragmatic conversations should be separated from emotional talks. On sex, she writes, the dialogue can go beyond physical pleasure, to encompass trauma, morality, aging, and disability. She advises that conversations about money should recognize its emotional weight. Years-old issues and the intimacy of family can pose additional challenges; Sale advocates connecting with relatives through family stories. In discussions of identity, people with less power are often burdened with explaining their perspectives, Sale writes, and she emphasizes that privileged individuals should listen carefully in these conversations. Not to be mistaken for a self-help guide, Sale's book also analyzes the structural and cultural dynamics that impede meaningful conversations. VERDICT Besides listeners of her podcast, this will appeal to any adult struggling to broach these topics.--Chris Wilkes, Tazewell Cty. P.L., VA

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